First RevGals Friday Five in a long long time since I took such a long blog break--plus it's normally a sabbath day so I stay offline. Swapping it out for Sunday since I have been working with my rector on final prep for an Ignatian Quiet Day we are leading tomorrow as well as revisions on one of my divine feminine Christian prayer books.
When it gets to the end of February, even people who LOVE winter are ready for a new season. Like this mom, sick of snow days and hearing the soundtrack of a specific movie, you might be going a little stir-crazy. With the lyrics of that movie to inspire, tell us:
1. For The First Time in Forever: Tell us about a magical first snow day – for a child, a transplanted southerner, or maybe you have a great story from the first snowfall in your area this season.
My husband and I met in grad school at Notre Dame which was so accustomed to snowy winters that we only witnessed two snow days in thirteen years residence in South Bend. The first one was a providential blessing sent by our oldest daughter Rachel, who would have been twenty-four this month, on what would have been her second birthday. It gave us a marvelous time to spend together talking and remembering, walking through the snow, sledding down the steps of the Golden Dome on cafeteria trays with some undergrads, and preparing for the memorial vespers that night at the Catholic Worker community that loved her so.
2. In Summer: Tell us what you look forward to when it’s warmer again.
More frequent and simple walks--though I do what I can in the Michigan winter--especially to the small lake near our house (actually the wide spot of a river that runs into nearby Lake Michigan).
3. Reindeers are Better than people: We are in the business of loving people. But sometimes… Well, it’s a bit of a stretch to love. Do you have a tip, a mantra, or a perspective that helps?
Honor all the feelings and pour them out in prayer and with safe and supportive listeners, lovingly confront where it seems prudent, keep the boundaries and self care strong when it isn't--and try to keep a balance with a Twelve Step focus on cleaning my side of the street even if it's not as mired in muddy snow!
4. Fixer Upper: Since we are in the season of Lent, what are you doing in the area of self-improvement?
Giving myself margin in the interest of more peaceful and centered, though busy, days--especially, and finally, taking the advice of a wise Jesuit in confession when I was in college: "If you're five minutes earlier you'll never be late!"
5. Let. It. Go. What would Elsa do? Are you de-cluttering? Moving on? Accepting a hard reality? Finding freedom? Celebrating the legal adulthood of my beloved and challenging older son and the freedom it gives all of us (especially from parental conflict around managing the drama, which is our couple healing focus this Lent!)